2008. Bring it on.

In the style of 2007, the year has ended and the new one begun with a flurry of change ….

* The house in Salida fell through. The appraisal came back as $20K than the agreed selling price. And that’s 20K that I don’t really have, especially for a 105 year old house that needs 2 new furnaces and may have some plumbing issues. So, I had to back out of the deal. Turns out that was a good thing for reasons soon to be revealed …

* I went to visit my folks over Xmas break. We had a fun time playing tourist in Charleston and Savannah. I got meet and hang out with her and her great friends in Atlanta.

* I also came out to my parents about Habiba, and I couldn’t have asked for better support. They were the poster parents for coming out: “You are old enough to make those choices for yourself. We just want you to be happy. In our minds, this is a positive thing because we know how much disappointment you’ve suffered in past relationships and we are happy that you have found someone to share things with. We look forward to meeting her.” Go, Mom and Dad!

* I got back to Boulder, and feeling free and strong from my parents’ endorsement, I had a week of feeling wonderfully close with Habiba, more in love than ever. We have even started making long term plans together. And then …

* Friday, she went in to a doc for a second opinion on this sinus infection that has been plaguing her for two months. They gave her a CAT scan and found a rather extensive growth throughout her sinus cavities on the right side and had begun to erode some of the bone in her face. Today, she had the biopsy. It is malignant. They are scheduling use to go in for more tests to see just what kind of cancer it is and how far it has spread.

We are choosing to stay hopeful. She is young (43). She is otherwise in great shape. And I’ve seen a number of friends and acquaintances go through successful cancer treatments in the past few years. It’s amazing what they can treat now. And, frankly, she is the most adoring partner I have ever known–everything I used to wish for but didn’t believe I could find–and I ain’t done with lovin’ on her.

More news as it arrives ….

Your thoughts and prayers are very welcome. Now, we’re off for a good night’s rest.

Peace and love, friends.


8 thoughts on “2008. Bring it on.

  1. My very bestest friend, , after being married briefly and dating quite a bit, met her true soulmate, . Seeing as we’d known each other for somewhere over 25 years, I felt free to ask if she was a lesbian or bi or what, and she said she didn’t know; that if being in love with Darona made her a lesbian, then yes. But really, her soulmate just happened to be a woman. Which was kinda what I thought.

    I notice has already friended you.

    is an ovarian cancer survivor, with semi-regular scares. has multiple hereditary exostosis (the short version is that every time she gets injured, she grows a bone). They wrote a book and created a game together, on how to handle hospital visits and other medical treatment processes, and how to talk to your loved ones about the hard questions.

    I think you four could be marvelous resources for each other. Also, and are two of the best people I know, and you’re another. And I don’t know Habiba, but I betcha.

    The two of them are doing an “in for coffee” day at Witches’ Brew on January 27. (It’s a sort of renaissance of the tradition of being “in” to visitors, except that they have a small parlor and don’t want to make themselves crazy cleaning house or dealing with remnants of people who wear perfume or other noxious aromatics.) She posted details Sunday January 6 in her journal.

  2. I’m glad to hear about your parents, and the love you and Habiba have for each other.

    I am concerned about the other news, but I will be positive with you. Her attitude will definitely help her healing, so I’m very glad you are both remaining hopeful.

    If H is open to receiving reiki, I am very happy to send her some. Just let me know…

    *hugs* and *love* to you both!

  3. Wow. That is a lot of… Stuff. Many blessings and a big challenge. But if there was ever a team with the spirit to beat cancer, I’d bet on the two of you. My very best and strongest healing thoughts are with you both. You can beat it.

  4. Reading this I felt a surge of joyousness at your parent’s supportiveness as well as your own continued happiness with Habiba.
    I also felt a tide of concern when I read of the medical problems the two of you are facing.

    I will carry you both in my heart and wish you healing and strength as you face these trials together.
    May the brilliance of your love banish all the shadows.

  5. Positive vibes to you two.
    Awesome on the parental front. I’m really happy for you.
    The cancer thing will be just a blip for you two. I firmly believe that.
    Also, tell habiba that there are easier ways of getting jello than going to the doctor! 😉


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